The ants come marching one by one Hoorah!

What happens when a DIVA declares her single woman-hood? The ants come marching in; they are everywhere. Maybe I should link them to my blog DIVASAURUS, because sweetheart I am not interested. In the past week I enjoyed/not enjoyed conversations with uninteresting opposite sex members. The ones I enjoyed were solely because the outlandish comments a few of them made gave me laughs for days! And the remainder were just totally BORING.

1) I am not impressed by the fact that you drive a car, and the fact that you need to say it over and over. WHY???

a)I have my own

b)You are spending your money to pay the note and therefore have no money to spend on me, or build with me or your struggling..

c)Your shallow


2) Do you truly want me to believe that I can trust you?

a)It never fails that everyday I get a new tale of a woman fighting with her man over b.s whether that bad him lying, cheating, lack of motivation, baby mama drama etc,, it is always something. So I say show me something new! Be sincere, stop the games and be true state what the hell you want!

3) It's way too soon to tell me all the bad things your ex did! Like we just met or rather you keep on following me.

4) Yes my hair is real and if it was not why the hell would that matter?

Listen honey... I can go on for days about the stupid encounters I have with men. See when this DIVA was attached not many men chased me down; I mean I had my share but not like it is now. All the wrong ones are heading my way and what am I to do?

So I start shutting them down easy... I won't disclose how (a DIVA has to save some secrets!) but I have to slowly reject them.

I really want to be alone for the time being; men cause trouble and my agenda does not include trouble... unless it has a latte in the plans and my personal trainer screaming at me because of the cal count!!!!

Single and damn happy!

I can recall wanting love or wanting a partner but that dream is no more. Ever since I embraced what a DIVASAURUS is by my own definition I determined I want to be single. I am reading this wonderful called The Single Girl's Manifesta and the writer hits everything right on target. She points out the things single women can do that married or attached woman cannot and looking through the list I wanted to laugh because I know too many women dealing with b.s from their lover.

I look at life a bit differently now, I can go home and light a candle and don't have to answer to anyone. How great does it feel to read a book at 2 in the morning and not have to hear an annoying man scream "Honey when are you going to bed?"

In my past relationships I had to hear that all the time and it was draining. It was always something, either I was never home or stayed up too late. Yeah everyone wants to cuddle up or go to a movie together but be for real you can have a black book full of numbers and dial up when necessary right?

If you don't know that love is a chemical imbalance then read my previous blog.

So those of you looking for the attachment ... GO ON I don't want him at all. It is certainly going to take a lot to lock this down...

The author of the book gives you list of things to do when "lonely time nears" which is good, but honestly I am so drained by days end all I want to do is fall asleep. So maybe in my dreams I want to be swept away by Prince Chariming but in reality I'M GOOD!

a diva is A dIvA IS A DIVA @#&*!

Remember my intial blog? Where I stated that a DIVASAURUS is not like Mariah Carey or Naomi??? Well I was wrong; there are some days where people make you shamelessly act out. I mean over the past three days this DIVA had to tell a few people off and force them to see reality! Let's start with today and work backwards shall we?

I was having a rather personal conversation with an 18 year old, and needless to say she was dim very very low lit ;-(
She was professing her love to me (TO ME?) about her incarcerated 21 year old boyfriend forever (yeah right tell me about it) anyway she wanted me to understand why she was making the lons ass trip to Rikers Island to see him. Let me remind you that I am still stuck on the part where she wanted to talk to me about this???

Let's call her crayon.. Crayon says she is in love with this REPEAT OFFENDER and he ironically wants to (you guessed it!) MARRY HER.. So I begin to ask her a series of questions that should lead her to question her actions and the ignorant comments coming out her mouth. Crayon begins rolling off her answers not even thinking twice but what more can I expect from her? Crayon says he violated parole and it wasn't his fault! REALLY? You don't say!

I then explained to Crayon that she has a full life ahead of her and most likely she will move on from JB (Jail Bird) Crayon says "Maybe but I want to be with him and he says he won't get locked up again" So I had to roll the statistics out for her..

Most repeat offenders tend to end back in jail so JB as bad as it sounds you may call jail your second home.

Ok next..

I don't want to say who let's call her Weirdo.. She has her 1st's all mixed up like seriously her to do list needs some help. She has been broke all month and the minute she gets some dough she buys RIMS??? Like why are you all testing me? I love to speak my mind but then I end up friendless ya know?

Next..
The 30 year old that wants to embrace her age as the NEW 20! I don't think so. If your 38 then guess what? Your 38... now if you want to play "you are as old as you want to be" then cool but I like to embrace my age! I am a quarter! Ok I am being a crazy DIVA because when I hit 38 you better believe I am going to say the same thing "It's the new 20!" LOL

Am I the only one with a crazy model from the 80's type mother??? Ok yeah I am sure I am ... She drives me crazy!

Did the little mexican lady from the laundromat dry my cocktail dress!!!! I begged her not to!

Calm down DIVA bring it back diva 5. 4. 3. 2. 1 whew...

later yall

What does a DIVASAURUS do when the $ runs low?

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NOW back to business..

Yes I am fabulous of course did you expect anything less? But I learned some time ago that you don't have to spend tons of money to look good (Thanks TJ MAXX). But you should know that my spending habits are not the issue well not anymore because I have changed my many ways for example I no longer take a car service to work! I know right? But I determined that I was spending too much money, this same money could fund my non profit ventures so I had to put a stop on that. Yes how ironic a DIVA wants to give back and is using her own funds as well... amazing? I know! Oh no need to flood my comment box telling me this!

That being said aside from me funding my organization I have many loans that are guess what? DUE so I am forced to allocate and change a few things in my budget to make things a bit easier for the DIVA. So I want to share a few things YOU can do to stay calm in this tough time.

1) Remember your goals for the future... Yes sometimes you have to struggle first before the good times role in.

2) Allocate properly... what needs to be paid NOW and what can wait. We all should know by know that credit card bills should be paid NOW and sometimes even before the due date. Just get it out the way. TRUST ME

3) Grind GrInD GRIND... I often say these words because I beleive in everything I do and I am certain things are going to get better; so tough it out.

4) Thrift shop... if you have to spend money on clothes check out thrift stores they are amazing!

5) If you have the time pick up a second job or start a home business making cupcakes or crafts :-)

Sarah Lyn Cupcakes coming soon!

6) Stay positive... I just got news that I have to pay an extra $200 bucks per month to a loan shark LOL (Pace University thank you!) But I am still smiling! Life is not perfect ya know???

Later :-)

oh!!!! No Lattes I learned the hard way $4.06 is a lot of money to shell out a day...

Divasaurus

Friends and the Bitch

I stated in a previous post that many people see a DIVA as a bitch and what many define that as amuses me. Do DIVA's have girlfriends? Well we have encountered many women in out lives but few are genuine enough to consider a true rider, but a woman who is there for everything, critical when necessary and empowered to do her own thing. Oh I have been fooled trust me but when you become a true DIVASAURUS your eyes are opened to a lot more than pretty flowers and kind words. I started to watch more than talk and it ultimately revealed a lot to me regarding these friendships.

Lets take a so called friendship I have with someone and evaluate it. I will leave names out because less drama makes my day easier! Don't you agree? She has been my girl per se since day one and always around when things started to fall down but slowly as I became the tyrannosaurus rex she started to back away. Her support for me started to diminish. Whay was that I began to ask myself was it because my accomplishments forced her to look at her life? Did my popularity question who she really was? I certainly think that was the issue, but I played the part until she spilled the beans all by herself. And now I know for sure that she was never a true friend only a homegirl who liked drama and now that I am drama free she has disappeared in the wind!

Ok, I am one who tries to solve all things but this I don't get. Why don't women like other women? Comedians say it often but its really not a joking matter. In my professional journey I have meet wonderful women who to this day support everything I do no matter how outlandish it may seem. They are an exception and they are professional contacts so there is a difference, I would not call them when I need to cry right? RIGHT so I am talking about real friends you can call on where are they at?

Must I relay on professional women to support me all the time? I have to find a way to get these untrusting girlfriends to release the hate and be real.

And to be honest and not jump around I find it bad that even many young professional women cannot connect without fear of outshine. Me I am cool if you are doing great things YOU GO GIRL! SO AM I!!! You are not better nor are you trying to be what I am well at least you should not try because its impossible. I state it firmly that all women should empower one another it is our CIVIL DUTY.

What does falling in love mean to a DIVASAURUS?

Well it is not the most appealing picture when you think of love but it is to some extent what it means to me. Let's take the technical component of love. Dopamine a naturally occurring chemical that helps to cause feelings of pleasure in the brain and is the main cause for this love feeling and then it is a fact that higher amounts of serotonin leads to obession and lower amounts lead to depression. So it sort of explains why when you meet someone you are attracted to you get a lot of energy and you often think about this person, because the chemicals in your brain are overactive! No one can tell you different about this person they are your world or what many call thier SOUL MATE! All that considered don't let a little technical talk stop you from falling in love just know that it is not all that magical after all!

So where does that leave a me? I think at this point in my life I am grinding (working)too hard right now to let things like love slow me down and that leads back to the whole chemical reation thing. I have been in love two times and during both times I started to lose focus on few things not many but I did become distracted by the LOVE JONES. I have yet to find someone who understands what I do and actual has no problem with it. With time commitments to virtually everyone how can I commit to one person? I have tried; trust me and it didn't work either I needed much space or couldn't spend enough time with the person and it bothered them. Hey cool; I can deal with that because I cannot sit around worrying about the specifics! There was one point in one of my previous relationships that I found myself crying day and night because of a break-up!!! AT THIS POINT IN MY LIFE... I say are you kidding me? Donald Trump says a broken heart should not stop business and he is right so I decided to wipe my tears and continue what I do.

Call me bitter but I determined I have no time for love and certainly no time for drama so I put it in the back burner. A DIVASAURUS is on a path to perfection with no drama no naysayers NOTHING.

That being said; me having love for my friends and family of course. Me fall in love again? Highly unlikely.

My definition of a DIVASAURUS..

This term means a lot more to me than pretty text or cool blog titles DIVASAURUS is a lifestyle to me and many other women out there who are not aware that they too are a DIVASAURUS. Many thought we were extinct but back by popular demand I bring you the true elements of her. Many view divas as a negative force not to be messed with, many of you may have gotten a glimpse of Naomi Campbell when I said diva, but its way more than that. A DIVASAURUS is not a woman who is bitchy or causes physical harm to others she is more of a element that many admire few try to cross her and she is ahead of the game not waiting for approval from anybody.

Many factors can make you a DIVASAURUS and if you answered "YES" to any of them then congratulations you may add this title to your resume!

1) Do you guard your reputation with your life?

2) Do you become insubordinate at times?

3) Do you enter ANY situation with boldness and determination?

4) Have you not yet mastered the ART OF TIMING?

5) Have you ever gotten away with something and felt GOOD about it?

6) Do you get up in the morning ready to take over?

If you are looking for a better example lets focus on Beyonce Knowles who I have identified as a DIVASAURUS. She doesn't care if you are tired of seeing her videos and countless magazines covers, does she? She walks around and knows you love her and tells you with a bright smile and fierce walk that she is here to stay. Determination to die for! AT such a young age she walked, danced and ran in those heels until she was a certified STAR. I once heard that people didn't think she could act but who cares?? I am sure she doesn't because as we speak she is wrapping up a new flick. Does she want to be accepted? YES! Does your hesitation to her new venture stop her ambition? NO!

And then that leads you to me Zanade, a DIVASAURUS not wanting to hear what negative things you have to say about her ventures or programs or articles she writes. She is respectful to some and strong willed to many. I was speaking to a old friend a week ago and he told me some things that would have discouraged me if I had not been a DIVASAURUS. But I let it roll of his tongue and onto the floor! So look to the traits of a DIVASAURUS like Beyonce, Josephine Baker, Tina Turner, Mariah Carey and many other women and watch me make my place in line with them.