Would you pay on the first date?

So me an my friend let's call her Hyper, Hyper has been going on numerous dates and practically emptying her pockets week after week taking these loser dudes on dates! I call them loser dudes because if you let a woman pay for dinner on the first date you are a loser in my eyes!

For me the rule is 1st date you pay and then we will move on from there but there is no way ...let me repeat NO WAY I am paying on the first date...

Ok, I must admit that I am a bit traditional when it come to this notion and a firm believer that notions are generally wrong but this one I can't cross out! I come from a family a rather small family where my grandfather treated my grandmother as a QUEEN. I have never seen my grandmother come out of pocket, he brought the groceries, paid the bills and much much more. When it was time to go school clothes shopping my grandmother gave the money HE HAD GIVEN TO HER TO PAY FOR THE A&S bill! I looked at that as love ... because he wanted to take care what was his! True story... and since then I had followed that same upbringing ... I am a power woman but I still would like to have the man I am with or dating treat me as a QUEEN in that respect.

Now that being said Hyper is going on dates spending money because she felt uncomfortable waiting for HIM TO PULL OUT HIS CC! Is she serious? Me? I would sit there with the glass of wine in my hand like I never saw the check hit the table LOL!

So I have been coaching her on how to cordially bypass the first date bill...

1) When the Waiter comes over he/she will almost instantly place the bill next to the man ... so let him/her do that ...smile at your date and go straight back to your lunch/dinner/latte!

2) He starts to fumble around like the $ just jumped out of his pocket ... get up and go to the bathroom! Enough said.

3) If you notice that after 10 minutes he has yet to pick up the bill ...play the same game until he does... HE SHOULD ALREADY KNOW THE RULES if not then send him MY WAY :-)

So she is ready for her next date ... I told her bring enough for cabfare Just In Case he bugs out LOL and when the check comes pick from the choices above!

Much Love,

A single for a reason gal!

Zanade :-)