8 Reasons Not To Let Your Dream Die!

One fond memory that I hold dear to me would have to be my elementary school trips, one in particular. I went to a small school P.S. 13 in Staten Island, New York and my teachers would always bring us on these wonderful exploratory trips. One trip I loved was our monthly trips to the Alice Austin house where there was a mini beach that we walked on. Now I was not interested in running around with my peers or sticking under the teacher because I was more interested in dreaming...

I envisioned where I would be in ten years, what home I would live in and more importantly what people I would encounter on my journey. I must admit I was quite ambitious and eager to become an adult. Then the teacher would blow her whistle to let us know it was time to go and I would leave all my dreams on the sand so that they would drift away into the waters and somehow come back to me as I aged.

Thinking back on those days I now realize that after being tossed through the mighty waters my dreams are now alive and kicking...

It is fair to say that what you want as a child related to your future goals are very pertinent! I don't think for one moment that any dream that I left out on the beach will be forgotten and more importantly I know they will come to pass..

Furthermore I present to you 8 real LIFE reasons not to let YOUR DREAMS DIE!

The waters re-create new life... New patterns in the sand... Things may not work out the way you envisioned them as a child but they can come to pass in whatever avenues they present themselves in!

1) Children are far more creative than adults and letting your creative dream die is not a smart idea.

2) When we are kids we believe that there is nothing "weird" about what we expect to happen when we are older... But for some reason as adults we let the minor things people say deter us from our hearts desire! Why not keep the notions you had?

3) Because this has been your dream for a very long time... Why would you want to start all over finding something that is just not who you are?

4) Because the person who discouraged you is counting on your failure!

5) Because dreams can easily be turned into real life goals and visions...and can even become companies!

6) Following your dreams will inspire someone else to follow theirs!

7) How will you ever be able to throw your hands up and sing Destiny's Child Survivor with a honest smile on your face?

8) And finally ... What about that ambitious child on the beach... huh? Who will answer to her?

Why it’s crucial NOT 2 Sleep in your 20’s!

Hey yall!

I want to give you all a few words of wisdom and give you 10 reasons why it is crucial NOT to sleep during your 20's...

If you have any Goals, Plans or Hopes sleeping won't get you there!

Is this blog meant to entertain? Maybe but the key points I am sure you will get by the end of the post.

Do you remember the night before the first day of school? I surely do! I could not sleep not one minute... Why? Because I was eager to meet my new teacher, show off my new L.A Gears and start a new point in my life.. I look at my life the same was now that I am an adult.. When I put a plan into action EVERY night is like the night before the first day of school! I lay in bed and reflect on what I want... what I expect to happen at the end of year... who have I touched... who's life did I improve or better yet how much did I improve over the past year or whatever timeframe I gave myself. More often than not I complete all my goals and own my accomplishments but I see that many of my peers are not doing the same.

I am quickly starting to Design Women... How you ask? By telling them what they already know... By giving them a chance to appreciate themselves without negative people around to doubt them...

Many of the women I deal with are 20 y/o + and they are having these restful night sleeps and I wonder how the heck they have time for that?

So follow my steps and live a restless, wealthy life!

1) How will you ever turn you DREAMS into real and visable GOALS if you are all wrapped up in your blanket?

2) When will you have time to network, if you are in bed by 9 p.m.?

3) When do you possibly update all your social networking sites if you are sleep by 11 p.m. and manage a 9 to 5 job?

4) There are way too many books at Barnes & Nobles for you to read instead of sleeping! TRUE STORY

5) You can not formulate a business plan if you are in bed BRIGHT AND EARLY! Venture Caps don't give a crap if you are tired!

6) Can you really watch Oprah at 4 p.m. and think that she got a good night sleep in the height of her career? You didn't think that she worked only 3 hour days... DID YOU?

7) You can't relay on Social Security ... so when are you going to become your own boss? And if you say soon ... remember that doesn't include a good night sleep! Trust Me!

8) Because if you had all these random thoughts throughout the day ...when will you get time to blog about them if your sleep? Can't do it at your job can you?

9) During the election with President Elect Barack Obama... do you remember the numerous volunteers... who had no sleep ...fighting for change ... to put that man in office ??? DO YOU THINK THEY GOT SLEEP?

10) And finally ...In your legacy... What story will you tell???

Zanade :-)

Would you pay on the first date?

So me an my friend let's call her Hyper, Hyper has been going on numerous dates and practically emptying her pockets week after week taking these loser dudes on dates! I call them loser dudes because if you let a woman pay for dinner on the first date you are a loser in my eyes!

For me the rule is 1st date you pay and then we will move on from there but there is no way ...let me repeat NO WAY I am paying on the first date...

Ok, I must admit that I am a bit traditional when it come to this notion and a firm believer that notions are generally wrong but this one I can't cross out! I come from a family a rather small family where my grandfather treated my grandmother as a QUEEN. I have never seen my grandmother come out of pocket, he brought the groceries, paid the bills and much much more. When it was time to go school clothes shopping my grandmother gave the money HE HAD GIVEN TO HER TO PAY FOR THE A&S bill! I looked at that as love ... because he wanted to take care what was his! True story... and since then I had followed that same upbringing ... I am a power woman but I still would like to have the man I am with or dating treat me as a QUEEN in that respect.

Now that being said Hyper is going on dates spending money because she felt uncomfortable waiting for HIM TO PULL OUT HIS CC! Is she serious? Me? I would sit there with the glass of wine in my hand like I never saw the check hit the table LOL!

So I have been coaching her on how to cordially bypass the first date bill...

1) When the Waiter comes over he/she will almost instantly place the bill next to the man ... so let him/her do that ...smile at your date and go straight back to your lunch/dinner/latte!

2) He starts to fumble around like the $ just jumped out of his pocket ... get up and go to the bathroom! Enough said.

3) If you notice that after 10 minutes he has yet to pick up the bill ...play the same game until he does... HE SHOULD ALREADY KNOW THE RULES if not then send him MY WAY :-)

So she is ready for her next date ... I told her bring enough for cabfare Just In Case he bugs out LOL and when the check comes pick from the choices above!

Much Love,

A single for a reason gal!

Zanade :-)

Why do I do this to myself???

I don't like to shop with friends believe it or not ...

( SIDE NOTE..I do however like gifts and individual splurges so don't get it twisted boys!!!)

And here is why! I have a friend let's call her Drama, Drama likes to take this long boring trips to these warehouse looking spots such as Woodbury Commons on Black Friday or Macy's after Christmas and this time Drama picked a GREAT place to torture me.. She takes me to a Sean John Warehouse sale at Hotel Pennsylvania in New York City.. and from the looks of the merchandise it looked QUITE BOGUS TO ME!

I am not sure if Drama knew that the clothes were fake but she was excited and I didn't want to burst her bubble ... Sad but true ..because that would have been a 2 hour argument about how I yes I THE DIVA doesn't know the difference between real SEAN JOHN and Fake Sean John.. so I let it be... I posted some pics so you decide!

1) They were only selling men's clothing... no kids no baby stuff just BIG MENS STUFF

2) The packaging looked cheap

3) Drama wanted me to help her pick out stuff for her man and sons

4) I was mad that this dude was trying to holla at me when he was holding a XXXL shirt and while I coldly stared at his stomach ...I had no choice but to just throw on my Armani sunglasses and WALK AWAY!

Some items were really nice but I was not feeling it because she only came out with 3 items (not her fault but still)

Please help me research this! Were average people really capitalizing off of fake Sean John in one of the nicest hotels in Midtown or am I bugging and can't decipher what is real or not????

Sincerely,

A very exhausted DIVA!

You may come in! The 2008* Pink Polka Dot Gala

Ok, I can explain this picture!

I was looking absolutely fabulous and feeling great until ten hours later when my feet started to KILL me lol

However without any complaining I cordially invite you to the Blog of The Pink Polka Dot 2008 Gala!

What an exciting day for me and my staff, we worked so hard for the past 6 months to create a production that would amaze even the most AMAZING people around! We had some wonderful lined up and a sparkling fashion show that was sure to tease the eyes...

This beautiful event was located at The Penthouse Suites in NYC and hosted by PMP Studios Inc. My generous board member John Stavros would provide all the delicious food and we were ready to roll! So I was the head lady in charge and it felt great to work with so many people, from the volunteers to the fabulous speakers. I showed up at the penthouse at about 10 a.m. YES bright and Early ... A DIVA can be late for most events BUT NOT FOR HER OWN! (Lesson Learned, take notes girls!) I did not have on the fabulous dress you see all over the web, but Baby Phat Jeans and a Classic Blank fitted shirt with my gym sneakers.. I had to prepare to run around and give orders.. I must give props to my assistant Kalimah who so graciously brought me a Venti ... Not Grande Latte but the biggest one Starbucks had because I was about to drop.. I didn't mention that the night b4 I had channeled my inner hairstylist and sewed in a head full of extensions for my little sister, and that ended about 3 a.m.

Latte well deserved!

Florence my registration hostess showed up and assisted me and might I say she looked fabulous before and after the event! She had to remind me twice to get dressed because my guests were starting to show up... So I ran into the men's bathroom no less to change into my outfit... Hey I didn't want another little divas seeing me get dressed! LOL

When I walked out I felt amazing ... not because of the outfit or the adoring eyes watching me walk across the penthouse but amazed because I HAD SET A GOAL AND ON THAT VERY DAY ACCOMPLISHED IT!That moves mountains when you can see all your hard work ...work for you!

My very good supporter Laura Allen was there t kick-off the conference and she wowed the crowd, a few of the girls stood up to present their custom made 15 second pitch that was taught to them by Laura. www.15secondpitch.com (shameless plug!)

Briian Dargon the most fabulous man I know did a great presentation although he was extremely nervous! I told you Briian you were a STAR! www.bsixtee6.com (yet another shameless plug!)

Nahal Zamani was so playful with the guests and they loved her! (Google her now!)

David Vernon gave it to our guests by providing the three keys to success! email me for all three! zanademann@hotmail.com

Kristina Leonardi gave her advice on how to follow your passions! www.thewomensmosaic.org (another!)

We even had a networking luncheon just to give every1 a chance to find out who ...who is! We played some of the hottest songs out there and made it more of party event then a dry conference where people want to walk out! LOL

Stephen Knight provided a unique fashion show for our guests and a VERY ENTERTAINING RENDITION OF BEYONCE'S Single Ladies!!!! www.youtube.com/1pinkz

Delilah Williams provided the lovely pics that are circulating the net! http://www.myspace.com/pinkpolkadot_org YES CHECK THEM OUT AND MAKE PLENTY OF COMMENTS! support Pink Polka Dot www.pinkpolkadot.org


Above all the main purpose of the event was to inspire young women ages 5 - 21 and we hit our mark!

To Infinity and Beyond!!!!

Misc Blogging

I have so much to talk about...

let's do some random blog-ness shall we?

I have a girly crush on Trey Songz! Yes it is true he is too sexy and that voice is to die for... ok truth is he reminds me of a hottie I dated in Junior H.S heyyyyy

So the DIVA is going to look fabulous this Saturday at her non profit organizations annual career conference and I am even considering false eyelashes!!! Yes be surprised this DIVA does not wear make-up or fake stuff unless you count a Tiffany necklace I brought from Chinatown a LONG time ago FAKE :-)

My org's career conference is quickly approaching and it will be amazing... Did I mention the shoes I brought... no? wait for pics to come :-)

Met a guy... I think there is something wrong with him though... He thinks what I do is great! Most men think I totally overwork myself and have no time for them... this is true but it is what it is!

I love my board of directors they treat me so well! Whatever vison I have they follow and support which is needed in this self-loathing world.

I re-brought my fav perfume by J. Lo LIVE

ok.. talk soon I gotta go and do my 9-5 work :-(

Love ya!

What Exactly is PMS-ing?

Given our biological nature we have monthly mood swings that your lover or friend calls PMS-ing, but what exactly does that mean? Today the DIVA will explain what it is and give you scenarios that just may indicate YOU are PMS-ing!

Premenstrual Syndrome!!! (Halloween theme song plays in the background)
This syndrome plagues women worldwide no matter what their background or economic status are they all get a little bitchy before THAT time of the month. Is it perfectly normal? Yes! Do some women go overboard with symptoms? Yes!

For those not familar with the symptoms of PMS here is a short list that is not limited to the things you may see yourself or someone you know go through.

1) Mood swings
2) Tender breasts
3) Fatigue
4) Irratibility
5) Depression

The funniest thing I encountered with my dear friend PMS is how I respond to people during that special time. Sometimes I find myself being very snappy and aggressive (see post You Had The Audacity to Speak to Me?)I will admit sometimes I take it to the extreme and I am sure you can agree that some women do as well. Let's look at some instances where a woman has gone to the EXTREME!

Scenario 1 Irratibility

You are sitting at the kitchen table and your husband/boyfriend/lover walks into the kitchen and makes himself a cup of coffee. The entire time you are staring at him coldly. He turns to say good morning and you notice he spilled a bit of java on your newly cleaned countertop. You look at him in disbelief and with the voice of the Devil say "How DARE you spill that on the counter? I stayed up ALL not cleaning!!! You don't care do you? Because I am a woman? You just GET UP, GET DRESSED and JUMP into your clean car, right? I can't take this ANYMORE John!" then slowly lower your head and start crying...

You just BUGGED OUT!

Scenario 2 Depression

You decide to dye your hair for the new Fall season. After its styled you proclaim to your sylist that you love it and you are glad you made the decision to dye your hair. You walk out looking fierce, until you see your co-worker/girlfriend who thinks the new style and color does not suit you. She says it's for a younger looking woman. After you acknowledge her you start walking down the block and someone else tells you they liked your hair much better the other way. You run home and start to analyze what your friends had said to you, you began to feel like an old woman. How were you ever going to compete with the Rhianna's of the world? You storm into the bathroom and begin to mess up your new hairdo by pouring water all over it then you put a shower cap over it sit on the coach and stare up at the ceiling...

You may have BUGGED OUT!

Scenario 3 Fatigue

(Think Deuce Bigalow)

You are out with a few friends and you are pms-ing. You decide it would be really cool to play charades (your childhood favorite game!) and you deside to go up first. You begin to act out a Beyonce scene from Crazy in Love video, you are twisting and turning and then you suddendly PASS OUT! They jump in shock to go see how you are doing but notice that you are sleeping like a baby on the floor! They chack you calender and realize it's PMS time of the month and realize you were just a bit tired. They wrap you in a blanket and go home.

You may have been a litte tired but you just BUGGED OUT!

Now the scenarios are overexaggerated but you get the point, sometimes we can take it too far!

Now that we had a little fun I want to stress of how important it is to keep your cool during these times. 3 out of 4 women experience PMS and many of them let PMS control their lives. That is not a joke. I myself have ruined some relationships because I let the BITCH in me get out of control. But I have learned to calm myslef during those times. I take walks and sorta tune out people for that moment. Hey it works for me! Also make sure you are taking vitamins and getting plenty of rest, because that helps.

Later

Z.

Let's Talk About _____ BABY!

Hey yall!

OK... Don't let the title fool you, but don't you just love that Salt & Pepa song? They were the BOMB in their day right? Anyhow...

I wanna talk about Expensive Taxi rides through New York City! That is the topic of the day. Saturday proved to be one of my challenges as I hoped to attend five events wearing a WHITE pencil skirt SUCCESSFULLY! My day started at 5 a.m and planned to end around 11 p.m so I had to prepare myself with some Pilate's. Let's not stay too long on the first two events and fast forward to the third. It was in the City and it was a GALA so I had to be on point because those women are FIERCE. My WHITE skirt already had a pen mark on it from my prior meeting so I was sorta off point but I was still on point if you know what I mean! LOL

Let's get to the Ring of FIRE! (Finding Nemo lol) I do not like to spend money on taxi's period. Well I do in my hometown of Staten Island but no way do I like to pay for taxi's in the City because they initially charge you $2.50 when you open the door! But as always an unreliable source told me to take the WRONG train and I ended up on the wrong side of town! Now only having 15 minutes left to be at my destination I seductively flagged down a taxi. Ok... After fooling myself thinking that if I waved my hand like a DRAG Queen I would get a taxi ...I just decided to wait until one pulled up. "Hi taxi man can you take me to 21 WEST 111th Street Alain Looke School?" he reluctantly said "No" but I jumped in anyway! I AM AN AGGRESSIVE DIVA :-)

He took me either way!

SO he turns and turns past Central Park in the opposite direction that I assume I needed to go, but magically he ended up at the school in no time. Unfortunately the meter read $11! I was tight $11 bucks? For a few blocks of turns that eventually got me nauseous. I asked him to explain this to me and he had the AUDACITY to say "IF I didn't pay it he would keep the meter running!" HUH "Is that right?" I said and I threw the $20 I had been holding onto on his lap.

Let's get together and call 311!

Let's start the National Coalition Against New York City Taxi Drivers!

NCANYCTD!!!!! Sounds very long and complicated but YOU GET THE POINT!

Later

Z.

In a world so great and large a DIVA explores so little

There is so much in this world that I have not touched yet. My biggest goal perhaps is to tour Japan, it’s been a passion for some time now and the main character in my book leaves her safe space to live in Japan (so there’s my inspiration!)

Besides the long term explorations; I yearn to fully explore New York City. I mean we (New Yorkers) seriously do not appreciate the space we occupy, from the theater district to good old Central Park. Last night I was invited to a private reception at Doyle New York by the President of my organization; this reception would feature modern and contemporary furniture, art and design. I must admit I was never one to enjoy that sort of art per se and I gather it’s because I was never exposed to it so I planned on getting the most out of this event.

I walked around for a bit and viewed the pieces of costume jewelry by socialite Brigid Berlin and dreamed of what could fit on my arm when this very attractive woman asked me if I wanted to try it on. I thought why yes I would but I am not one for giving things back LOL so I kindly rejected. The DIVA♥♥♥ in me cannot stomach WINDOW SHOPPING!

So I moved on to the guacamole treats they had set out for us! I was in sheer heaven. It was near the treats I noticed one of the most amazing drawings I had ever seen… An original drawing by Yves St. Laurent himself! … A coat he had sketched for a friend and it was going for auction at a price of $800! I could only dream… Read previous posts (I am Broke!)

Moving forward I had to get my drunken DIVA♥♥♥ on and headed straight to the champagne table where they offered Pellegrino or white wine hmm…

Are you wondering what I selected? NO WAY

You didn’t have to wonder …

So after 2 glasses of wine I pepper seeded all the way over to girlfriend Susan who was looking at this Japanese vase that resembled test tubes. We talked about what we liked and dislike about the collections and even admired Ms. Roz Abrams who was in attendance (her shoes were FIERCE!)

The night soon ended with the DIVA♥♥♥ having new perspective of the art world and wanting to visit more exhibits. Come to think of it I have a friend who hosts an Albanian Art exhibit in Midtown! I must give him a call!

What are some places you have visited in New York City that a DIVA♥♥♥ may not be aware of? Come on help a DIVA out ….I am in a positive mood today  LOL

Later

Z.

You had the audacity part 2!!!

Ok ladies I had to add on to this blog because after I told a few male friends of mines about what I said to that poor man, they had their say!

My boy had asked me what was good with my blog and I said it was going well, I met some knew DIVA's and all but then I remembered the latest blog I wrote and how he would get a KICK out of it!

He responded with the funniest face I had ever seen. Like he couldn't believe I said that to that guy. He said that we are messing dudes self esteem up????? HUH?????

I was like "How the hell are we doing that?" he said could you imagine stepping up to someone and saying "Hey sweetheart what's your name?" and she bug out on you! I told him for the record I would not step to anyone with a tight grill on their face LOOKING LIKE THEY DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED!!!! That is the face I had on the MEAN MUG! Wouldn't that prevent anybody from approaching you? Was I bugging? My girls confirmed that I wasn't. Its just that dudes are stupid sometimes and can't or rather won't take "oh no thanks" for an answer... right?

So he couldn't control his laughter because he was like could you imagine 8 dudes on the corner chilling and a lady past by and looks them dead in the face and says "You no good fat ugly losers!" and just keeps walking! I had to object because that was not what I did all I said was "You have the audacity to speak to me?" THAT'S ALL!

But he was amazed...

Go figure .... MEN!

A DIVA has had it up to HERE with their logic's of things

Girl please

Later

Z.

You had the Audacity to speak to me???

Ok, the past few post have been nice cute little things that you should all enjoy but the DIVASAURUS is back... psychotic flip out time...

I am getting really sick and tired of these men who think they can just APPROACH me! Like what the hell is going on? At what point did you think it was ok to say something to me?

My name is so true to my life. I am a diva A HUGE one at that. The way I walk the way I stand the way I hold my hand out like someone should kiss it SAYS IT ALL. So much so that others are intimidated to speak. COOL! :-)
But BUT! for some strange VERY strange reason some men bypassed the hand to come and talk to me.

Yes, the other day I was standing waiting for a friend when this toothless man passed by and said "Hello!" I ignored him; what else was I to say? Being so bold he approached me again! So I rolled my eyes and turned my head to address him. Okay if you know me you know that what I said next was either extremely funny or hurtful LOL

"Excuse me? Why did you think it was okay to address me? Do I look available? Do I look like I need conversation from someone like you?" and he stood there SHOCKED that I had just asked him those questions, but should he have really be surprised? Do I really look approachable? LOL

That really irked me because I damn sure don't want to look approachable to these losers...

So how would you have responded? And don't give the DIVA that BS about how you would have shut him down nicely... because that DOES NOT WORK and neither does the I HAVE A MAN approach because they just come back with more questions!

Love ya

Z.

10 Questions to Ask Strangers who Friend Request You

Ok, so in a world filled with unknown people and a social networking community who embraces them what do you do when you receive an unknown friend request? Perhaps this person is following you on Twitter or seen your comments on a mutual friends page. That being said they took the liberty to "friend request" you and its cool at times but when it becomes overwhelming what should you do?

I say you should start asking a few questions and either they will kindly answer or just automatically delete you out of sheer embarrassment!

But here are a few questions I think you should ask. Worse come to worse; you had fun with a stranger and even got a few laughs...

1) Who are you? I mean plain and simple who the hell are you? Should I know you?

2) Where did you see my profile at? Because most of the times if you are an avid Twitter like I am it is possible that you have over 300 followers and not know any of them. So they may feel a little connection and want to extend an invitation on FaceBook or MySpace.

3) Your not going to flood my Myspace with inappropiate comments are you? I mean let us be for real; if you friend request me and I happen to accept but I really don't know you... Why would you flood my comment box with "Hey Sexy" messages???

4) Did you do a Google search on me after your request? I mean HEY I do it! LMAO

5) Do you like my picures? If you have the audacity to friend request someone that you don't know you should at least comment on their pics/profile, don't you think?

6) Do you mind putting me on you top? Come on, they requested YOU so the least they can give back for full access to your personal life is a TOP SLOT!

7) Your not a spy... Are you? Hey you never know lol. Your EX could have sent his/her friend your way to get info. I had a few crazies in my day! Girl let me tell you LOL

8) Since you want to BEfriend me have you looked at my _________ (insert MySpace, FaceBook, Twitter) accounts? If they want to be all in your business and you accept one you should forward them all!

9) Tell me the truth... On a scale from 1 to 10 how do you rate my profile pic? Get feedback from those who don't matter. Maybe they will tell you something your bestie wouldn't!

And the # 10 question to ask unknown friend request!!!!!!!!!!

10) Did I really waste all this time asking YOU questions???

by the way if you are NOT connected to me here are my links

Love you guys/gals

Z.

http://twitter.com/zanade

www.myspace.com/zanade

http://Writing.Com/authors/zanade

http://twhpnetwork.ning.com/profile­/Zanade

http://www.linkedin.com/in/zanademann

asicollect.blogspot.com

10 Ways to Successfully Date a Gemini

1) Don't attempt to impress her with boring pick up lines♥ Taking this route will only make her ignore you. Gemini's are creative by nature and they live for the unusual. Find something unique to say to your chosen Gem lady and you will at least get her attention and possibly a business card!

2) Adapt to an extravert lifestyle♥ Gemini's are very social so prepare to go any and everywhere she wants to go or introduce her to new places. Do not try to tie her down because it will only make things bad on your part in the long run. Anything with a lot going on at one time is sure to please your Gem lover.

3) Listen to your Gemini talk♥ Gemini women love to engage in all sorts of conversation and they are the conversationalist of all the astrological signs. So give her plenty of time to run her mouth and she will instantly fall head over heels for you. ENOUGH SAID. Bonus tip… say things like "Really?", "How did you manage to do that?" and "Do you blog?"

www.justmezanade.blogspot.com

4) Don't forget to compliment her♥ Most Gemini's love or rather LIVE for compliments and if none are present she may go insane and start tossing objects around the room (True Story!)

5) Don't over compliment her♥ A true Gem can automatically detect when someone is not being sincere and your bag of compliments can easily turn into bullshit; going through one ear and out the other. So don't be phony and if you have to be at least find something she is into and compliment her; then it would sound sincere.

6) Have something interesting going on in your life♥ Gemini's wear different hats and like to be actively involved in activities therefore she expects you to be just as involved. Now that is not saying you have to do everything she wants to do its just saying have a life outside of your 9 to 5! A true Gemini doesn't want a mediocre man.

7) Remember that Gemini's are always mentally active♥ So it may seem as if your Gem is not paying you any attention and at times she probably isn't but not on purpose. Gemini's mind can go from one topic to another instantly, so you may be enjoying a romantic dinner and she may be thinking of mowing the lawn (lol) but don't be offended because she can bring it back JUST LIKE THAT!

8) Take advantage of her wild side♥ Gems are great lovers and they love to please everyone especially their men. Don't be intimidated if your Gem wants to try something new; just sit back and enjoy the ride!

9) Forget trying to make her jealous♥ Many Gemini's don't care if you try to make them jealous by being with the next woman and if you tempt her enough she will get back at you tenfold by doing a little flirting of her own. Gemini's are master flirters and they are very witty so many people attract to them; so ultimately you will lose at that game!

10) Pamper her♥ Gemini's love attention and gifts, they love to feel appreciated. Flowers and candy are hardly enough; try things like exotic trips or a pretty bag to make her day. Or give her a spa gift certificate and let her live in bliss!


Gemini's are fun loving and irresistible and if you are lucky to get one; treat her well and let her talk and you will do just fine!

♥♥♥

Some notable Gemini Women

Angelina Jolie

Heidi Klum

Anna Kournikova

And me Zanade!

Political DIVA!

Hello DIVA's and men readers (Iknow your out there lol)

I wanted to make this post more special then any other post. Divas have this bad rap basically saying divas don't like other divas and this is totally not true and I will prov this tonight!

I had so much fun at The White House Project this weekend and if you are not sure what I am talking about please log onto www.myspace.com/pinkpolkadot_org and check out our latest blog!

Besides that I want to express that many woman can gather and support each other!

AND WHEN YOU ADD WOMEN YOU DO TRULY CHANGE EVERYTHING!

Welcome to the Diva's Salon

Today I am serving up something different. Is that possible for me? I don't know but here we go!

I have so many random thoughts running through my head.

1) I must address some of the MySpace pages I have been seeing. Is there a need to have your whole damn fam on your profile? Like as soon as you kick out another kid you got pics posted all throughout the MySpace community! Like from the womb to the scanner! Its ridiculous. What happened to censorship? Keeping the kids safe???
by the way my personal page is www.myspace.com/zanade no worries there are no nude flicks or umbilical cords LMAO!!!

Speaking of nude pics why does every think they are all of a sudden Ms. Independent? Like Neyo please stop gassing these chicks up it's KILLING me! Either that or they "About da Business!" come on people!

2) Since you brought up the topic of children. Why are all these girls getting knocked up without planning for the future? I mean yes at 3 months Jordan's are not expensive but lets see you kick out $200 10 years from now!

That brings me to a time in my life where people would make fun of my clothes because I didn't wear Jordan's or expensive clothes but I was smart I thought of the long term effects of my purchases. I saved and most of the so called divas (lowercase ON PURPOSE) have nothing and they stay in the $10 store... hmm maybe I should invite them to my blog!

But the bigger picture is ... how are we raising our children? How can young teens raise these kids with no support? Where is their future heading? Can someone please tell them that many of the social services made readily available will be extinct pretty soon!

3) How freaking long does my stylist expect me to sit under this dryer? I really hate getting my hair done. I don't want to stare at weaves and open perm boxes. I want to get my set and go home. No mami no need to wrap I want to leave asap!

4) Assistants when will they ever learn?

5) Am I wrong for being independent and taking care of myself but when a man comes along I expect him to provide for me? Like seriously we are supposed to be taking care of each other right? GOOD

Victoria's Secret cost $$$$

6) Yes I am ADDICTED to nail polish! Seems like every person I say that to looks at me weird.

7) Some blogs I read inspire me and others shouldn't be posted.

8) I love feedback

9) Why did they play my man Stan O'neal? He was the man!!! Now the finance world is lacking and they blame the black man for shame :-(

I love the finance world in its good and bad times... I was studying for my MBA then left it to be a complaining blogging DIVA!

10) Life is short .... enjoy life .... buy what you will.... marry the best.... drive the flyest... Say w/e you likeeeeeee

Later

Z.

The more things change the more things some things remain the same

Reality

I hate complaints!! I dislike people who don't do anything but complain about everything. For instance lets take this evening where I had to play the lead role at Pink Polka Dot.. (my all girls org)

Its something more of moderating sessions between myself and the youths. I like to call this performing, because when I get in front of those adoring eyes I put on a SHOW! So here I am dancing and singing and shouting loudly when a certain somebody decides to "ahem" interrupt me!!!!!

PICTURE THIS...

The DIVASAURUS wearing a lovely blue and cream polka dotted dress with eyelet ruffles and tan Manolo's to match, DANCING and SINGING around the opera house tables. The fans being tantalized by my monstrous voice and seductive rolls and then a mortal questions my DANCE Routine!!!???!!!!???

The music stops and the band looks on as the DIVA gives it to her "AHHHHHHHHH"

Reality

I looked at the culprit with only a dangerous grin that certified my annoyance and sheer disgust that someone questioned me!

I ignored it and moved on.

Here's the thing don't say anything out of context to me and I won't look at you funny...

And the fact that this person nearly complained about my performance pissed me off. Then no less than an hour later tried to play nice to me!

Reality...

If you are not satisfied with the way things are then don't involve yourself in it or speak up at an appropriate time. Don't question the master's logic and you will be fine. Find a subtle way to say what is wrong. Because at this point a DIVA is mad.

But honestly the things I say and do is fabulous and in life there are people who will question you... Who says their question is worth anything? Complaints = dissatisfaction and that is one thing a true DIVA doesn't do and that is DISSATISFY

Ya Dig?

LOL

Talk to you soon!

Don't tell me 1/2 of the sToRy

Maybe I can be a bit harsh when I respond to my girls I would admit that but there are reasons why.... Check it out

My girls either think I am naive or overbearing I cannot call it but at times it gets to me. I have a gf who thinks I don't know what is going on in her life and hey maybe I need to know and maybe I don't but I am not stupid and I don't like lies. So my girl got something going on and she is not telling me the complete story. Honestly I have two friends doing this to me. I think its because they think I am judgemental but I am not; I give advice and I get results that's all.

So anyway one gf is telling me bits and pieces of what is going on with her personal life but then expects me to be supportive???? How can I be if I can't call the situation?

My other friend is leaving the country with another man she met in Jamaica. Maybe I should breakdown the story some more...

Sister girl went to Jamaica and met some guy and they had a hot and heavy week; we all know this rule "what happens in Jamaica stays in Jamaica!" well it was that sort of thing. Damn I am thinking I NEED TO GO TO JAMAICA! Anyway ....

The guy was beautiful compared to her fat nasty husband laying at home waiting for her return. She sorta got dick whipped (it was soooo good she could not think straight! you know what I mean don't you be naive lol) So she made plans to stay and I looked at the phone like she was out of he mind but I let it be. She returned and her husband flowered her with gifts and all the good stuff because he missed her so much. But then she surprised him with a last minute trip to Jamaica two months later and was not inviting him along. Now I know you would like to know the rest but shit she never told me! lol

All I know is a year later she is pregnant and blowing up my cell talking about the dude in Jamaica played her, and all this other nonsense and she wanted to have dinner with me so we can have a girls night out being that I had just broken up with my ex at the time! I mean she intentionally left me out the loop and now wanted support bit** PLEASE

And now to my crazy ass buddy who has something scandalous going on that she is not tellllingggg. The worst part is she told me half the story then got me involved in some mess but yall no miss DIVA is not going for that so I SHUT IT DOWN! so when the shi* hits the fan don't get at me! Like my man Kanye says "when it all falls down mannnnn" don't call me!

I need better friends or at least a trip to Jamaica!

Later yall

Z.

I got a case of CDD (Crazy Day Diva)

So today was more then enough for a DIVA, from talkative men on my way to work, crabby assistants, thought provoking interns, sealing a deal that a DIVA has been waiting for, lots and lots of hay, mass transit, a sparkling fashion show and overactive kids to top off my night!

So pull up a seat; or rather can I lay on your sofa and tell you about my day? I have about a hour right???

So I start my day as a DIVA head in the air ready to take on the world I pull out my Grant Writing for Dummies book and get started. But before I had a chance to put my earplugs in my ear this asian man starts talking so loud on his cell about mergers and only thing I was thinking was "Not right now please Lord!" It's 7 am in the morning come on now even I take a break from the madness... well not really but we are talking about him here! So I decide to put the book away and listen attentively.

As I get to work I look through all the things that should be done that I have not even completed and decide to probe my assistant who likes to piss me off by giving me one word answers in which I despise, but I guess that is her payback. I asked her to "do" a few things for me and after a week no progress so as a type a personality that I am I decided to "do" it all myself and have such a surprise for miss unsuspecting! But I will leave that up to the imagination. I like to complain yes but I like RESULTS and not when you think you want to give them to me. But I got it under control :-) She loves my crazy OCD ass!

I have a few interns that write for my newsblog and I love how creative they are and how they give me ideas for articles of my own because you know WE ARE ALL WRITERS AT HEART! I hired a new intern and she is a DIVA in training (trust me!) When I met her she amazed me with her Japanese drawings because you all should know I love Japanese culture. And the real reason she was hired was her skill for networking; at just 17 years old she handed me a business card!!!!!!!! That is a business mogul after my own heart. I love to see girls empowered to things above what they were labeled to do. AMAZING

Now I want to show you how grateful a bitchy, obsessive DIVA can be by saying in a few lines or less how happy I am that we sealed the penthouse deal for The Pink Polka Dot Org's Annual Career Conference! Thanks

Ok ok I lied! I have to talk all about it lol
I went to the venue space and was introduced to so many people it was great and they were very very kind and welcoming. This one designer (gorgeous by the way) Brian Dargon had a set up that required hay (yes hay for horses) his clothing line was inspired by downsouth barnyards or something to that effect and he wanted to create or rather he did create an actual barnyard with beautiful (again) BEAUTIFUL male models whew... anyway the owner of the space told me the funniest story of how pounds and pounds of hay arrived at the buildings doorstep and how he told the designer that all that HAY was not entering his building!!! LOL so the owner said he called the local police and donated all the hay to the lovely horses of NYC! CLASSIC ;-(

For blogging purposes I hate hate HATe NYC's Mass transit system .... ok DIVA count form 10

I have the best network any DIVA can ask for as my good friend Preston invited me to a fashion show in the city. So I brainstormed and decided to bring along some up and coming fashionista's from my org so that they can see for themselves how fab they are. They truly enjoyed walking around in a lux penthouse with designers and being asked questions and taking flicks FLICKS! One up and coming designer Passion (what a great name for this fashion DIVA, her real name by the way) got a chance to talk to Allison Jacobs a very beautiful designer who is soon to open her showroom in the city! Remember we all need REAL AND VISABLE GOALS AND ANYTHING IS possible!

Then finally and thank God the least my overactive girls became restless and hungry so we ate and jumped on the train. But that was not it they had to piss me off by acting like ducks on the train and obnoxiously saying QUACK every 10 seconds I wanted to SCREAM.... SO I DID

"Shut the hell up you spolied DIVAS!!!!" LOL

Life is GOOD

Z.

My period made me do it!

Ok I shouldn't tell you all this but I had a true bitch fest today. I was going through these wild emotions and could not figure out why. OK everyone gets it I am single and loving it right???

Right.

But today my thoughts was on high; I wanted to feel love today or some type of stimulating convo with someone older than 8!

I found myself texting ALL THE WRONG PEOPLE just to get this hump off my back but that DID not work. Then to top that off my younger sister was like Zanade do you think you will be single forever? (she asks me that while trying to secretly hide a hickey someone gave her BUT I WILL GET TO THAT LATER)

And I answered "SO!!!" because today I didn't want to be single. Ms. Manifesta says we (single women) often get those days where we don't want one night stands or booty call friends or gay buddies we just want a man A MAN damn it! Well today was it. I started to reflect on old relationships and began the cry me a river shit.

Then my trip to the bathroom made me realize why I had been acting crazy all morning... Little miss totally unexpected popped up! I started to breathe and laugh uncontrollably because I thought I was about to break the code and start looking for a man but oh no my home girl P got a sister's back!

Thanks P

I knew you were good for something LOL

Today was a crazy day :-)

Disgusted Diva

I had a whirlwind weekend everyone! But I want to highlight or after you read the subject matter you may want to call this low light. I encountered this woman or whatever you want to call her while exiting the train station in the city. This woman was rather anxious to direct me down the block after she noticed me staring at my phone fiddling with directions. "Where ya going?" the eager woman says and I simply brush her off like any REAL DIVA would. But she asks again "Where are you headed pretty lady?" so I entertain her for the moment and say I am looking for 37Th and 8Th and she flips her knapsack around her waist and says "Follow me!" so with conviction in my voice I say "OK".

Why struggle with HopStop?

I didn't really bother to look at her but then she began running her mouth about being homeless and this (directing traffic) being her profession. So I instantly became interested in her. I asked her why was she homeless and why didn't she choose to sleep in a shelter and she told me she would rather be free to do her drugs than be restricted by shelter staff to what time she had to be home. I mean in a way I understood because who wants to be TOLD what to do? But I didn't understand why she let drugs rule her being. I explained to her she is letting the drugs tell her what to do and she stared at me and whispered not a word.

What shocked me is that miss independent tried to play the con artist role on me by saying she was pregnant and needed food. So I could have been the gullible social entrepreneur but oh HELL NO I am not!!! I am the most FABULOUS SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR DIVA around! Which means I take no shit from anyone. You didn't meet a nice tree hugger who cares about everyone and gives all she has to the needy. I uplift and serve and SHOP. I am not one to be used. So I told her that is not a very good hustle you have going on and she looked puzzled.

So as I approached my block I told her to get her life in order stop being weak and join a drug rehab and get into a shelter because at this rate she is looking to be killed! It is so true like someone may look at her as less than nothing as I first did and they may not care about her babies and drugs and traffic position.

What disgusted me the most was that she was a sister! She was down and out and didn't care. Drugs was more important and I feel her because sometimes LATTES are more important than my next meal but I would never go to that extreme. How do some people get to that point? Why do you not value who you are and your life?

Miss Independent I know you would probably never read this blog but to one DIVA to another person on the grind KEEP YOUR HEAD UP PLAY IT SAFE AND PLEASE VALUE WHO YOU ARE! NOT IN MEASURE OF DRUGS OR YOUR STAND AT BEING INDEPENDENT BUT BECAUSE YOU ARE SPECIAL YOU ARE NOT LESS THAN NOTHING!

Damn what a blog..........

I guess the "good lover" was not all that "good" after all LOL

I stay single for a reason... My girlfriend for some insane reason decided to pursue a man that has been giving her G (game) for over three months. Now I say this because there were some rumors years ago that this certain G Man was terrible in bed. Now I don't know about you but I take notice when I hear stuff like that and choose not to find out if the rumor is true or not. But she wanted to know; considering the attention he was giving her lately G G G!!!!

She reported back that all that was said WAS true so she pretty much wasted her energy on G Man and I am laughing my ass off (had to spell it out LOL)

It is wild because she doesn't understand how a man so cute could be so well... bland in bed. Hey I told her it happens to the best of us and she should try her best to forget it all!!! Well with me sending her voice messages laughing uncontrollably that may be hard to do but that shit is funny!!

But what is even worse she didn't tell him he was trash! Now a real DIVA knows she has to tell him that immediately after the bad romp. So now he is all in her face and apparently thinks he did a job well done when it was really a thumbs down lol

Diva's!!! Nip bad sex in the bud NOW don't wait LOL

Sorry Crissy this was too good not to post

Love ya!

I done heard it all!

So back to my bitterness LOL

I was at an event and me being me of course five men wanted my attention and I amused myself watching them feign over me. But what shocked me the most was what one told me... ok wait...I know that most of what I write is published and many eyes can see and many lips can talk so I will leave names out!

This gentleman lets call him was the nicest guy I have ever met at a party. He didn't crowd me or rub his umm ... parts on me so I was feeling it. But a DIVA is always thinking ahead so I knew there was something WRONG somewhere! AND I WAS CORRECT

I noticed weird patterns and began to drift away from him because I was like oh hell no not again LOL He started to say he had obsessions and shit I am like you got to be kidding me! Like the stuff he was saying was very uncommon and now I wish I hadn't handed him my business card!!! Damn!

See why I say a DIVA is always going to be alone? Too many weirdo's out here!

Ok we have a soft side

A DIVA is not always a mean girl unwilling to let anyone in her heart; she is a caring friend to a select few. That brings me to this blog, a friend of mines is going through a tough time and an even tougher pregnancy and her girls are doing all they can to be there for her.

As always a man does everything possible to make situations strange; from being unloving to flat out ignoring you and depending on your current state of mind it can effect you. I am sure this is the reason my friend is down and it makes me sick!

I recently found out that she may be delivering her child alone!!! I could not freaking imagine that! So my girls and I have decided to be there for her just like the Divine Sisters we are! LOL

We are doing our share to make this a smooth transaction for her...

Friends are very important no matter what status of DIVA you are. Personally I don't need them because they cause trouble but when you find some that uplift you YOU MUST stick with them.

I am on my way to purchase a boa for the new addition!!!!

Later

The ants come marching one by one Hoorah!

What happens when a DIVA declares her single woman-hood? The ants come marching in; they are everywhere. Maybe I should link them to my blog DIVASAURUS, because sweetheart I am not interested. In the past week I enjoyed/not enjoyed conversations with uninteresting opposite sex members. The ones I enjoyed were solely because the outlandish comments a few of them made gave me laughs for days! And the remainder were just totally BORING.

1) I am not impressed by the fact that you drive a car, and the fact that you need to say it over and over. WHY???

a)I have my own

b)You are spending your money to pay the note and therefore have no money to spend on me, or build with me or your struggling..

c)Your shallow


2) Do you truly want me to believe that I can trust you?

a)It never fails that everyday I get a new tale of a woman fighting with her man over b.s whether that bad him lying, cheating, lack of motivation, baby mama drama etc,, it is always something. So I say show me something new! Be sincere, stop the games and be true state what the hell you want!

3) It's way too soon to tell me all the bad things your ex did! Like we just met or rather you keep on following me.

4) Yes my hair is real and if it was not why the hell would that matter?

Listen honey... I can go on for days about the stupid encounters I have with men. See when this DIVA was attached not many men chased me down; I mean I had my share but not like it is now. All the wrong ones are heading my way and what am I to do?

So I start shutting them down easy... I won't disclose how (a DIVA has to save some secrets!) but I have to slowly reject them.

I really want to be alone for the time being; men cause trouble and my agenda does not include trouble... unless it has a latte in the plans and my personal trainer screaming at me because of the cal count!!!!

Single and damn happy!

I can recall wanting love or wanting a partner but that dream is no more. Ever since I embraced what a DIVASAURUS is by my own definition I determined I want to be single. I am reading this wonderful called The Single Girl's Manifesta and the writer hits everything right on target. She points out the things single women can do that married or attached woman cannot and looking through the list I wanted to laugh because I know too many women dealing with b.s from their lover.

I look at life a bit differently now, I can go home and light a candle and don't have to answer to anyone. How great does it feel to read a book at 2 in the morning and not have to hear an annoying man scream "Honey when are you going to bed?"

In my past relationships I had to hear that all the time and it was draining. It was always something, either I was never home or stayed up too late. Yeah everyone wants to cuddle up or go to a movie together but be for real you can have a black book full of numbers and dial up when necessary right?

If you don't know that love is a chemical imbalance then read my previous blog.

So those of you looking for the attachment ... GO ON I don't want him at all. It is certainly going to take a lot to lock this down...

The author of the book gives you list of things to do when "lonely time nears" which is good, but honestly I am so drained by days end all I want to do is fall asleep. So maybe in my dreams I want to be swept away by Prince Chariming but in reality I'M GOOD!

a diva is A dIvA IS A DIVA @#&*!

Remember my intial blog? Where I stated that a DIVASAURUS is not like Mariah Carey or Naomi??? Well I was wrong; there are some days where people make you shamelessly act out. I mean over the past three days this DIVA had to tell a few people off and force them to see reality! Let's start with today and work backwards shall we?

I was having a rather personal conversation with an 18 year old, and needless to say she was dim very very low lit ;-(
She was professing her love to me (TO ME?) about her incarcerated 21 year old boyfriend forever (yeah right tell me about it) anyway she wanted me to understand why she was making the lons ass trip to Rikers Island to see him. Let me remind you that I am still stuck on the part where she wanted to talk to me about this???

Let's call her crayon.. Crayon says she is in love with this REPEAT OFFENDER and he ironically wants to (you guessed it!) MARRY HER.. So I begin to ask her a series of questions that should lead her to question her actions and the ignorant comments coming out her mouth. Crayon begins rolling off her answers not even thinking twice but what more can I expect from her? Crayon says he violated parole and it wasn't his fault! REALLY? You don't say!

I then explained to Crayon that she has a full life ahead of her and most likely she will move on from JB (Jail Bird) Crayon says "Maybe but I want to be with him and he says he won't get locked up again" So I had to roll the statistics out for her..

Most repeat offenders tend to end back in jail so JB as bad as it sounds you may call jail your second home.

Ok next..

I don't want to say who let's call her Weirdo.. She has her 1st's all mixed up like seriously her to do list needs some help. She has been broke all month and the minute she gets some dough she buys RIMS??? Like why are you all testing me? I love to speak my mind but then I end up friendless ya know?

Next..
The 30 year old that wants to embrace her age as the NEW 20! I don't think so. If your 38 then guess what? Your 38... now if you want to play "you are as old as you want to be" then cool but I like to embrace my age! I am a quarter! Ok I am being a crazy DIVA because when I hit 38 you better believe I am going to say the same thing "It's the new 20!" LOL

Am I the only one with a crazy model from the 80's type mother??? Ok yeah I am sure I am ... She drives me crazy!

Did the little mexican lady from the laundromat dry my cocktail dress!!!! I begged her not to!

Calm down DIVA bring it back diva 5. 4. 3. 2. 1 whew...

later yall

What does a DIVASAURUS do when the $ runs low?

Ok.. For wonderful finance info for a GIRL like you just click the title of this blog and surf over to this great site!

NOW back to business..

Yes I am fabulous of course did you expect anything less? But I learned some time ago that you don't have to spend tons of money to look good (Thanks TJ MAXX). But you should know that my spending habits are not the issue well not anymore because I have changed my many ways for example I no longer take a car service to work! I know right? But I determined that I was spending too much money, this same money could fund my non profit ventures so I had to put a stop on that. Yes how ironic a DIVA wants to give back and is using her own funds as well... amazing? I know! Oh no need to flood my comment box telling me this!

That being said aside from me funding my organization I have many loans that are guess what? DUE so I am forced to allocate and change a few things in my budget to make things a bit easier for the DIVA. So I want to share a few things YOU can do to stay calm in this tough time.

1) Remember your goals for the future... Yes sometimes you have to struggle first before the good times role in.

2) Allocate properly... what needs to be paid NOW and what can wait. We all should know by know that credit card bills should be paid NOW and sometimes even before the due date. Just get it out the way. TRUST ME

3) Grind GrInD GRIND... I often say these words because I beleive in everything I do and I am certain things are going to get better; so tough it out.

4) Thrift shop... if you have to spend money on clothes check out thrift stores they are amazing!

5) If you have the time pick up a second job or start a home business making cupcakes or crafts :-)

Sarah Lyn Cupcakes coming soon!

6) Stay positive... I just got news that I have to pay an extra $200 bucks per month to a loan shark LOL (Pace University thank you!) But I am still smiling! Life is not perfect ya know???

Later :-)

oh!!!! No Lattes I learned the hard way $4.06 is a lot of money to shell out a day...

Divasaurus

Friends and the Bitch

I stated in a previous post that many people see a DIVA as a bitch and what many define that as amuses me. Do DIVA's have girlfriends? Well we have encountered many women in out lives but few are genuine enough to consider a true rider, but a woman who is there for everything, critical when necessary and empowered to do her own thing. Oh I have been fooled trust me but when you become a true DIVASAURUS your eyes are opened to a lot more than pretty flowers and kind words. I started to watch more than talk and it ultimately revealed a lot to me regarding these friendships.

Lets take a so called friendship I have with someone and evaluate it. I will leave names out because less drama makes my day easier! Don't you agree? She has been my girl per se since day one and always around when things started to fall down but slowly as I became the tyrannosaurus rex she started to back away. Her support for me started to diminish. Whay was that I began to ask myself was it because my accomplishments forced her to look at her life? Did my popularity question who she really was? I certainly think that was the issue, but I played the part until she spilled the beans all by herself. And now I know for sure that she was never a true friend only a homegirl who liked drama and now that I am drama free she has disappeared in the wind!

Ok, I am one who tries to solve all things but this I don't get. Why don't women like other women? Comedians say it often but its really not a joking matter. In my professional journey I have meet wonderful women who to this day support everything I do no matter how outlandish it may seem. They are an exception and they are professional contacts so there is a difference, I would not call them when I need to cry right? RIGHT so I am talking about real friends you can call on where are they at?

Must I relay on professional women to support me all the time? I have to find a way to get these untrusting girlfriends to release the hate and be real.

And to be honest and not jump around I find it bad that even many young professional women cannot connect without fear of outshine. Me I am cool if you are doing great things YOU GO GIRL! SO AM I!!! You are not better nor are you trying to be what I am well at least you should not try because its impossible. I state it firmly that all women should empower one another it is our CIVIL DUTY.

What does falling in love mean to a DIVASAURUS?

Well it is not the most appealing picture when you think of love but it is to some extent what it means to me. Let's take the technical component of love. Dopamine a naturally occurring chemical that helps to cause feelings of pleasure in the brain and is the main cause for this love feeling and then it is a fact that higher amounts of serotonin leads to obession and lower amounts lead to depression. So it sort of explains why when you meet someone you are attracted to you get a lot of energy and you often think about this person, because the chemicals in your brain are overactive! No one can tell you different about this person they are your world or what many call thier SOUL MATE! All that considered don't let a little technical talk stop you from falling in love just know that it is not all that magical after all!

So where does that leave a me? I think at this point in my life I am grinding (working)too hard right now to let things like love slow me down and that leads back to the whole chemical reation thing. I have been in love two times and during both times I started to lose focus on few things not many but I did become distracted by the LOVE JONES. I have yet to find someone who understands what I do and actual has no problem with it. With time commitments to virtually everyone how can I commit to one person? I have tried; trust me and it didn't work either I needed much space or couldn't spend enough time with the person and it bothered them. Hey cool; I can deal with that because I cannot sit around worrying about the specifics! There was one point in one of my previous relationships that I found myself crying day and night because of a break-up!!! AT THIS POINT IN MY LIFE... I say are you kidding me? Donald Trump says a broken heart should not stop business and he is right so I decided to wipe my tears and continue what I do.

Call me bitter but I determined I have no time for love and certainly no time for drama so I put it in the back burner. A DIVASAURUS is on a path to perfection with no drama no naysayers NOTHING.

That being said; me having love for my friends and family of course. Me fall in love again? Highly unlikely.

My definition of a DIVASAURUS..

This term means a lot more to me than pretty text or cool blog titles DIVASAURUS is a lifestyle to me and many other women out there who are not aware that they too are a DIVASAURUS. Many thought we were extinct but back by popular demand I bring you the true elements of her. Many view divas as a negative force not to be messed with, many of you may have gotten a glimpse of Naomi Campbell when I said diva, but its way more than that. A DIVASAURUS is not a woman who is bitchy or causes physical harm to others she is more of a element that many admire few try to cross her and she is ahead of the game not waiting for approval from anybody.

Many factors can make you a DIVASAURUS and if you answered "YES" to any of them then congratulations you may add this title to your resume!

1) Do you guard your reputation with your life?

2) Do you become insubordinate at times?

3) Do you enter ANY situation with boldness and determination?

4) Have you not yet mastered the ART OF TIMING?

5) Have you ever gotten away with something and felt GOOD about it?

6) Do you get up in the morning ready to take over?

If you are looking for a better example lets focus on Beyonce Knowles who I have identified as a DIVASAURUS. She doesn't care if you are tired of seeing her videos and countless magazines covers, does she? She walks around and knows you love her and tells you with a bright smile and fierce walk that she is here to stay. Determination to die for! AT such a young age she walked, danced and ran in those heels until she was a certified STAR. I once heard that people didn't think she could act but who cares?? I am sure she doesn't because as we speak she is wrapping up a new flick. Does she want to be accepted? YES! Does your hesitation to her new venture stop her ambition? NO!

And then that leads you to me Zanade, a DIVASAURUS not wanting to hear what negative things you have to say about her ventures or programs or articles she writes. She is respectful to some and strong willed to many. I was speaking to a old friend a week ago and he told me some things that would have discouraged me if I had not been a DIVASAURUS. But I let it roll of his tongue and onto the floor! So look to the traits of a DIVASAURUS like Beyonce, Josephine Baker, Tina Turner, Mariah Carey and many other women and watch me make my place in line with them.