My Realization

Hey everyone!

Have you ever had random thoughts running through your mind that you needed to share with someone?

Well how lucky the DIVA is to have you!!!

1) When walking through the subway station everyday I notice a loud, blinking sign announcing that a "Brooklyn bound train is approaching Whitehall Street" so like the normal New Yorker I am I jumped down the stairs in 4 inch pumps hoping to catch the R train... But much like a joke I missed it!!! Was I angry yes because everyday I take the same trip and the same sign flashes doubtful words across its screen and to my amazement the train just left!

But today it was a different story and as I walked down the stairs the sign haunted me! "Brooklyn bound train approaching Whitehall Street" and I realized it was full of junk and I slow dragged myself onto the platform HA!

2) I realized that there are some really important people in my life... Some I neglect and I am not ashamed to admit it but I always follow up and treat them all with respect.. But then I see there are people who are NOT important to me and as much as they want my time I don't give it and that being said 2006, 2007 and 2008 are a mere thing of the past.. If you are not in my circle or aspire to be then I have written you off ENOUGH SAID!

3) I realized that it is so much easier to blame others for what kind of life you have, I myself have been guilty on occasion of this but honestly there is no way you can live this way! Over the weekend I had the pleasure is watching Madea Goes to Jail and as outlandish as Tyler Perry may seem he has some awesome messages. He said you can't live your life without forgiving those who have hurt you or you will spend your life bearing what has happened oppose to moving on and being prosperous!

4) Speaking of Mr. Perry... I realize that he is by far ONE intelligent man and an even better entrepreneur! I could go on about him but if you are not aware of what type of business mogul this man is you need to do the research yourself!

5) I realize that my mom was hot STUFF in her prime! At 5'5 long black hair to her behind, chestnut eyes and a nose to KILL for she was IT! Like seriously she worked in the Playboy Bunny Bar!!! I have all the pics to prove it but shhh... DON'T TELL HER!

6) I realize the number 1111 means something... I just have no idea what it MEANS! Remember Jim Carrey's movie The Number 23???

7) I realize that I am the most low maintenance DIVA you know! It doesn't take me much time to dress or apply make-up ...because I look great in anything and I don't wear make-up.. Guys love that for some reason; maybe I should pitch that to Cosmo Mag!

8) I realize that some things I post or my poetry may seem a bit OUT THERE but it is sooo normal to me ..So does that make you weird???

9) And lastly for today I realize that lack of sex can distract you! LOL

Later DIVAS!

Zanade

5 Ways To Brand Yourself Right Now!

Ok, if you know me and follow my numerous blogs you are fully aware of Designing Women Inc. and if not then I officially invite you to jump on board to the best business to help you succeed from now to INFINITY!

Side note: Designing Women Inc. is a business of products and services exclusively designed for the OPTIMISTIC woman in YOU! From The Art of Networking, Branding and consulting services to an array of beauty products this company is all ABOUT YOU!

So this blog solely speaks of BRANDING

Do you have one clue what branding is? Yeah you can Google it but I am positive you will be HIT with too many results to decipher which ones are credible... But lucky you Zanade CEO of Designing Women Inc. will give you a head start!

Branding is: The process of creating a unique, positive and recognizable identity for a person, product or service.

So how would you get started?

1) Get to know social networking sites! Who cares whether you prefer Facebook over Myspace... It's all about getting your BRAND out into the social networking world!

2) Create a mantra, a saying, a quote anything that is YOURS! Take me for example many people know me as the Networking Queen that follows the saying "To Infinity and Beyond!" ... So with that being said...create yours and stick with it!

3) Grab a Twitter account! www.twitter.com (Might I add President Barack Obama has a Twitter profile!) Yeah! So get with it! Along with famous people and places like Starbucks, CNN and Beyonce!

Follow me www.twitter.com/zanade

4) Think Different! What is so unique about what you are doing that you know will create buzz???

5) CREATE A BLOG! Now you may not have 200 comments or 15,000 followers but your BRAND will be picked up by Google... FAST! And that builds SEO (Search Engine Optimization) which is very important in this digital world!

Thank you for giving yourself a chance to learn and grow! NOW GO OUT AND CREATE YOUR BRAND!!!

Zanade Mann
Designing Women Inc

A night with a Prince (and some other stuff!!!)

Contrary to popular belief

1) I don't party

2) I am a Gemini

And 3) I am obsessed with nail polish (but we will leave this one for another post!) lol

But last night I decided to have a good time with a good friend without solely focusing on professional aspects of my life, and although he tried to make me talk about work I side-tracked him so elegantly he didn't even notice lol

Let me say it was a long time coming because when I do events or go to galas everything is about work, no matter how many glasses of Merlot you see in my hand! Zanade is the networking Queen so I have to stay true to my title, but last night I let that go so that I could enjoy a moment to relax, relate and release...

1) We have a Black President who not only embodies what many men in this world should but he is strong and has a great woman beside him!

2) My intense workout is going great

3) And for purposes of this blog someone very special to me gave me a night of laughs and true joy... So thank you :-)

Ok, so after I sweated to the oldies for an hour the Prince* picked me up and we headed to the wonderful world that is Union Square. I must admit that my attire wasn't the best (weather conditions) but I made it work... A DIVA always does... with flashy butterfly earrings and flowing hair I was set to thrill!

Prince* took me to this great spot called Spice (if you never had then you must go NOW) For some reason he suspected that I was a bit uneasy with eating new foods but if you truly know me that is never the case. I was just taking it all in; the place was so beautiful I felt right at home. So I normally like to have the man order... I must say I am quite old fashion when it comes to that (my grandfather was such a gentleman) So after 20 minutes of being indecisive and having the waiter prompt us twice to order I let Prince* take care of business. He ordered these great shrimp and chicken fritters with a spicy sauce that was so tasty but eating them was a bit odd... Prince shoved the entire fritter in his mouth and suggested I do the same... so me being adventurous threw the entire thing in my mouth (weird visual I KNOW)

We talked about goals and life and of course he asked "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" now ladies be careful how you answer this question, because your answer could scare the hell out of that man! Some women go off and start talking about marriage and mortgages (two things that scare the hell out of ME!) So I answered that I intend on living my dreams and having an established business and such. He began to tell me what his plans are and I was intrigued by every moment! Prince* is a very motivated DIE HARD individual so grabbing my attention was easy!

After that he gestured that we go see a movie and of course he said "Have you seen Notorious?" And ... for the record NO! I HAVEN'T! But the next showing was way too late for me so we opted to see My Bloody Valentine (not a great choice but suitable for the time and place)

Side note: When did 3D get so popular again? ;-(

We laughed and jumped at every single thing that SHOT at us (literally) and I must mention he has great arms and I took advantage of holding them EVER chance I could... it was a great moment and I took a deep breath to inhale the wonderful thought provoking.....WEED? What the heck I thought and totally blanked out from the classic horror movie girl-grabs boys arm routine and said "Is someone sitting in the movie theatre smoking weed?"

Prince* so embarrassed says "Yes... Yes it is weed."
I HATE THAT SMELL! I thought and proceeded to ignore or try to ignore what the dumb kids were doing...

OK, Jump to the mid-end of the movie..

Prince* and I are totally confused and he wants to know where did we get lost and I am still stuck at trying to adjust my eyes to see the darn thing in 3D! Then by the end we finally "GET IT"

Disappointed? Not really because I spent the night with a Prince* and like a true man (to my standards) he made sure that I got home safe and sound so that I can pick up bright and early on MY JOURNEY!

Sincerely,

An essential shining DIVA*

Zanade

Top 10 Ways To Corner the Recession!!!

Ok... How are you doing through this recession??? Are your bills piling up? Did you cut back on salon visits? Are you looking for anything to cover your expenses?

Well it wouldn't be silly to say "You are not alone!" But this does not have to stop you from being the optimistic person you are deep inside... Rough times always makes people depressed and needy but I say "Why should it?" Being depressed will do nothing to your current situation... Correct?

Well today the NYC Diva will give you 10 things you can do to better yourself and stay above water!


1) Look for opportunities... Be aggressive in your future don't wait for them to arrive go meet them there!

2) Get into the entertainment arena ...this could be anything.. Because during these times many people are looking for things to make them happy... Like going to the movies or local plays.. Try to fit yourself in those sectors! Reposition yourself!

3) Up your game in Networking! Meet more people be more social... If you need any help with this email me ASAP!

4) Absolutely look into new fields other than the field you are currently marketing to!

5) Look at the relationships you have with people in your contact list! See who can do things for you professionally AND CONTACT THEM! (On tips of what to say email me! zanademann@yahoo.com)

6) Stop being FEARFUL!

7) Invest in associations and professional organizations... it may cost some $ but the long term effect will pay off!

8) See a career coach... (Side note) if you buy a membership with a professional org you may be entitled to a free session with one! Try www.nywici.org if you are in the communications field!

9) Prepare for sudden changes personally and professionally and then your worries won't be that high if something happens!

And...

10) Think of yourself as a brand! ®

I hope this list was very informative for you as it is for me I want to thank those who have instilled this in me over the years! Many thanks to my organizational women!

Later!

Zanade Mann

Any questions please don't hesitate to email the DIVA! Let's help each other!

I guess the "good lover" was not all that "good" after all LOL

I stay single for a reason... My girlfriend for some insane reason decided to pursue a man that has been giving her G (game) for over three months. Now I say this because there were some rumors years ago that this certain G Man was terrible in bed. Now I don't know about you but I take notice when I hear stuff like that and choose not to find out if the rumor is true or not. But she wanted to know; considering the attention he was giving her lately G G G!!!!

She reported back that all that was said WAS true so she pretty much wasted her energy on G Man and I am laughing my ass off (had to spell it out LOL)

It is wild because she doesn't understand how a man so cute could be so well... bland in bed. Hey I told her it happens to the best of us and she should try her best to forget it all!!! Well with me sending her voice messages laughing uncontrollably that may be hard to do but that shit is funny!!

But what is even worse she didn't tell him he was trash! Now a real DIVA knows she has to tell him that immediately after the bad romp. So now he is all in her face and apparently thinks he did a job well done when it was really a thumbs down lol

Diva's!!! Nip bad sex in the bud NOW don't wait LOL

Sorry Crissy this was too good not to post

Love ya!

The ants come marching one by one Hoorah!

What happens when a DIVA declares her single woman-hood? The ants come marching in; they are everywhere. Maybe I should link them to my blog DIVASAURUS, because sweetheart I am not interested. In the past week I enjoyed/not enjoyed conversations with uninteresting opposite sex members. The ones I enjoyed were solely because the outlandish comments a few of them made gave me laughs for days! And the remainder were just totally BORING.

1) I am not impressed by the fact that you drive a car, and the fact that you need to say it over and over. WHY???

a)I have my own

b)You are spending your money to pay the note and therefore have no money to spend on me, or build with me or your struggling..

c)Your shallow


2) Do you truly want me to believe that I can trust you?

a)It never fails that everyday I get a new tale of a woman fighting with her man over b.s whether that bad him lying, cheating, lack of motivation, baby mama drama etc,, it is always something. So I say show me something new! Be sincere, stop the games and be true state what the hell you want!

3) It's way too soon to tell me all the bad things your ex did! Like we just met or rather you keep on following me.

4) Yes my hair is real and if it was not why the hell would that matter?

Listen honey... I can go on for days about the stupid encounters I have with men. See when this DIVA was attached not many men chased me down; I mean I had my share but not like it is now. All the wrong ones are heading my way and what am I to do?

So I start shutting them down easy... I won't disclose how (a DIVA has to save some secrets!) but I have to slowly reject them.

I really want to be alone for the time being; men cause trouble and my agenda does not include trouble... unless it has a latte in the plans and my personal trainer screaming at me because of the cal count!!!!

What does falling in love mean to a DIVASAURUS?

Well it is not the most appealing picture when you think of love but it is to some extent what it means to me. Let's take the technical component of love. Dopamine a naturally occurring chemical that helps to cause feelings of pleasure in the brain and is the main cause for this love feeling and then it is a fact that higher amounts of serotonin leads to obession and lower amounts lead to depression. So it sort of explains why when you meet someone you are attracted to you get a lot of energy and you often think about this person, because the chemicals in your brain are overactive! No one can tell you different about this person they are your world or what many call thier SOUL MATE! All that considered don't let a little technical talk stop you from falling in love just know that it is not all that magical after all!

So where does that leave a me? I think at this point in my life I am grinding (working)too hard right now to let things like love slow me down and that leads back to the whole chemical reation thing. I have been in love two times and during both times I started to lose focus on few things not many but I did become distracted by the LOVE JONES. I have yet to find someone who understands what I do and actual has no problem with it. With time commitments to virtually everyone how can I commit to one person? I have tried; trust me and it didn't work either I needed much space or couldn't spend enough time with the person and it bothered them. Hey cool; I can deal with that because I cannot sit around worrying about the specifics! There was one point in one of my previous relationships that I found myself crying day and night because of a break-up!!! AT THIS POINT IN MY LIFE... I say are you kidding me? Donald Trump says a broken heart should not stop business and he is right so I decided to wipe my tears and continue what I do.

Call me bitter but I determined I have no time for love and certainly no time for drama so I put it in the back burner. A DIVASAURUS is on a path to perfection with no drama no naysayers NOTHING.

That being said; me having love for my friends and family of course. Me fall in love again? Highly unlikely.